I’m not one who is comfortable receiving compliments…especially when a guy tells me that I look sexy, even though he is a confirmed gay all the way! But then again, when a gay tells a girl that she looks sexy, does it count cos he sure doesn’t look at girls the same way that a straight guy does….hmmm.
Well it all happened when Fitness First launched the new release of the Les Mills classes and there were T-shirts up for sale. So this particularly T-shirt really caught my eye cos it had a really unique design and looked really cool. (See picture below). Being a softy for pretty things, I decided to get one as well…and yet wondering at the same time whether I dare to wear it or not. Coming from a very strict family background, my father would scold me if I so much wear a sleeveless top or too short a skirt…what more this slinky top! Actually he also scolds my mum for wearing sleeveless too…I guess only a father knows how a guy thinks.
But then I thought, what the heck, since I bought it I might as well wear it since it didn’t come cheap too. So I decided to wear it to my next hip hop class together with my baseball cap since we were doing a cap dance that day. In the middle of the class, one of my friends had a very bad leg cramp and had to stop the class. I was helping him to take off his sneakers when my instructor decided to choose that very opportune moment to say to me, “Wah! why so sexy today?” The whole class suddenly looked at me and not knowing where to hide my face, I took my cap to cover my face. I thought he should know by now I’m very shy shy one!
Later back home, I got an sms from my instructor telling how cool I looked in that sexy top and that I should dare to wear that kind of clothes more often. In the back of my mind I picture my father and some guys from my church lecturing me on my dressing if I ever followed this piece of advice. Hmm…frankly I still don’t feel comfortable being called sexy or wearing sexy tops like that mainly because I’m not used to it and also feel a bit overexposed.
I guess it kind of set me thinking, does sexy means having to reveal more flesh? Can’t a woman be sexy without having to show a leg or breast? How do you define sexy? And when does showing too much flesh becomes skanky?
According to the Free Online Dictionary, sexy means :
1. Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.
2. Slang Highly appealing or interesting; attractive.
And yet sexy can mean a lot of things to different people, just as one man’s beauty is another man’s beast…or something corny like that. Sexy is definitely in the eye of the beholder. So we can’t really define sexy because it is different for everyone.
So what does God thinks of sexy? I think God created us women to be sexy, though not the same definition of what the world defines as sexy. God made us sexual beings so our sexuality is more than just the way we dress or look, but it is in the way we think, in our gentle and quiet spirit, all that makes us who we are.
The Bible’s Hebrew word for sex is yada which means, “known, recognized, understood, respected.” The word is used both in reference to a man and wife having sexual intercourse and, along with other usages, in reference to a person being in deep fellowship with God. Because sexy is the adjective form of sex, it can mean that in God’s eyes we’re known intimately, recognized to the core of our being for who we are.
Of course, God includes the physical appeal that the world defines as sexy within His precious Word. Proverbs 5:18-19 says, “May you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”
That verse acknowledges that we have the power to be captivating. But take a look at how many women captivate the guy in Proverbs.
Did you get it?
One.
The wife of his youth.
When you put the definition of yada together with this verse, it says to me that there are deep secrets about us that only our husband is supposed to know. God did create us to be sexy, but not our world’s cheap compromise of sexy. When we choose to be sexy for only our husband, we live according to God’s purpose. And that is definitely sexier than any definition the world throws at us!
Well it all happened when Fitness First launched the new release of the Les Mills classes and there were T-shirts up for sale. So this particularly T-shirt really caught my eye cos it had a really unique design and looked really cool. (See picture below). Being a softy for pretty things, I decided to get one as well…and yet wondering at the same time whether I dare to wear it or not. Coming from a very strict family background, my father would scold me if I so much wear a sleeveless top or too short a skirt…what more this slinky top! Actually he also scolds my mum for wearing sleeveless too…I guess only a father knows how a guy thinks.
But then I thought, what the heck, since I bought it I might as well wear it since it didn’t come cheap too. So I decided to wear it to my next hip hop class together with my baseball cap since we were doing a cap dance that day. In the middle of the class, one of my friends had a very bad leg cramp and had to stop the class. I was helping him to take off his sneakers when my instructor decided to choose that very opportune moment to say to me, “Wah! why so sexy today?” The whole class suddenly looked at me and not knowing where to hide my face, I took my cap to cover my face. I thought he should know by now I’m very shy shy one!
Later back home, I got an sms from my instructor telling how cool I looked in that sexy top and that I should dare to wear that kind of clothes more often. In the back of my mind I picture my father and some guys from my church lecturing me on my dressing if I ever followed this piece of advice. Hmm…frankly I still don’t feel comfortable being called sexy or wearing sexy tops like that mainly because I’m not used to it and also feel a bit overexposed.
I guess it kind of set me thinking, does sexy means having to reveal more flesh? Can’t a woman be sexy without having to show a leg or breast? How do you define sexy? And when does showing too much flesh becomes skanky?
According to the Free Online Dictionary, sexy means :
1. Arousing or tending to arouse sexual desire or interest.
2. Slang Highly appealing or interesting; attractive.
And yet sexy can mean a lot of things to different people, just as one man’s beauty is another man’s beast…or something corny like that. Sexy is definitely in the eye of the beholder. So we can’t really define sexy because it is different for everyone.
So what does God thinks of sexy? I think God created us women to be sexy, though not the same definition of what the world defines as sexy. God made us sexual beings so our sexuality is more than just the way we dress or look, but it is in the way we think, in our gentle and quiet spirit, all that makes us who we are.
The Bible’s Hebrew word for sex is yada which means, “known, recognized, understood, respected.” The word is used both in reference to a man and wife having sexual intercourse and, along with other usages, in reference to a person being in deep fellowship with God. Because sexy is the adjective form of sex, it can mean that in God’s eyes we’re known intimately, recognized to the core of our being for who we are.
Of course, God includes the physical appeal that the world defines as sexy within His precious Word. Proverbs 5:18-19 says, “May you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer — may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”
That verse acknowledges that we have the power to be captivating. But take a look at how many women captivate the guy in Proverbs.
Did you get it?
One.
The wife of his youth.
When you put the definition of yada together with this verse, it says to me that there are deep secrets about us that only our husband is supposed to know. God did create us to be sexy, but not our world’s cheap compromise of sexy. When we choose to be sexy for only our husband, we live according to God’s purpose. And that is definitely sexier than any definition the world throws at us!
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