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No, Thank You!

I was on my way back home on the commuter last night when I saw this amusing incident involving two malay girls and one male foreigner.  I was actually standing near this cubicle near the doors since there were no more seats available.  These two malay girls were standing next to each side of the door and chit chatting.  Then this guy, quite fair, probably from north India or Nepal judging from his way of speech, came out to stand next to one of the girls, leaning against the wall.  As the commuter train rattled along its way, suddenly the girl looked back at the guy because he was standing closer and closer to her.  He quickly apologized and moved away abit.  

The train rattled quite violently later and he was kinda pushed towards her, whether on purpose or not, I’m not too sure but so he quickly apologized again and this time went over to stand over the other side next to the other girl.  He then started talking to the other girl and the conversation went something like this:

Boy: Excuse me, is the next stop Jalan Templer?
Girl: Yes.
Boy: What your name?
Girl: Sha*****…And you?
Boy: My name is Ra***.

Boy: What your handphone number?
Girl: No, thank you!

Girl: Are you getting down at Jalan Templer?
Boy: Yes I stop at Jalan Templer station.

At this time the train was already reaching Jalan Templer station, so she wished him goodbye.  He wished her back and started walking out of the train, waving back at them.  When the train moved on, the two girls were giggling and laughing away over his antics.  

I felt like laughing too, but seriously what was he thinking….that Malaysian girls are easy?  But I must say this, he had guts! Like the saying goes “Faint heart never won Fair lady”…or something like that.  Back in 2000 I had an encounter with a guy who really had guts too.  I was working in a Christian organization and had to go to the bank about 3 to 4 times a week.  Since we had a priviledge account, I went to this counter where there were only 3 tellers there, 2 malay girls and 1 malay guy.  So in time we were quite friendly with each other.  One day, the malay guy asked me if I was interested in their insurance programme.  The conversation went something like this:

Guy: Are you interested in our new insurance program (handing me a brochure)?
Me: No, I already have a policy.
Guy: How about your parents?
Me: They also bought already.
Guy: Your ‘Pakwe’?
Me: No-lah, he’s in New Zealand.
Guy: New Zealand?  So far.  So…em…you guys not getting married?
Me: (speechless for a while)…em..no.

I quickly finished the transaction and went back without a word.  What actually happened was, out my “dumb dumbness” I didn’t really know the meaning of ‘Pakwe’.  I thought since it sounded like ‘Pak Cik’, he must be referring to my uncle or something.  I had no idea it was a malay slang word for boyfriend.  So since I was too embarrassed to admit my ‘dumb dumbness’, I didn’t straighten it out nor see any need to.

Then the next time I went to the counter, as he was processing my transaction, he asked me when I was free.  I asked why and he said he wanted to take me out to dinner.  Still recovering from the initial shock, I just kept quiet.  Thinking my silence meant that I didn’t want to go, so he tried to persuade me some more and said that it’s okay, since my ‘pakwe’ is in New Zealand, what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him.  

“Oh really…hmmm, this guy cannot to be trusted! So that day was just to check out if I had a boyfriend and not because he wanted to sell me insurance…”

So in the end, just to give him face(I mean, hey it took a lot of guts for him to ask me out in front of his colleagues and all the other customers), I told him I would go out with him but under one condition.  And the condition was that he has to bring along his two other female colleagues.  He was reluctant, citing that they eat a lot and he would “rugi”.  So I said to him that it is up to him.  I’m not saying no, but if he wants to go out with me, I made it very clear that it is just as friends and not a date.  Since he is a non-Christian, he was not even an option for me….even if he is, well…I don’t trust him, even though he really had guts!

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